35 Self Sabotaging Examples

Being able to recognize the ways you are self sabotaging your growth and happiness is the first step in stopping these behaviors. We’re going to look at 35 examples of how we self sabotage.

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Self Sabotaging Examples [Part 4]

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To stop our self sabotaging behavior, we have to know what needs to change.

Throughout this post, we’ll go through specific ways you may be self-sabotaging. If you find yourself saying, “Ooof. I definitely do that,” don’t worry!

At the end of this post we’ll focus on the top way to eliminate our self-sabotaging habits.

Before we get started, I want to let you know that this post is a part of our July series on self-sabotage.

Throughout the remainder of this month, we’re going to look at all things self-sabotage: what it is, how to stop, how it affects us and why we do it!

If you think you may be self-sabotaging your life, work, goals, or relationship(s), I promise you- you’re in the right place!

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35 Examples of Self Sabotaging Your Happiness

Work Behaviors

You tell your employer or coworkers that you can do more than you actually can.
You show up consistently late and unprepared.
Even when you need the break, you never deny new projects because you fear the reaction from your employer.

Relationships

You blame other people for the situation(s) you are in.
Instead of practicing healthy communication, you choose to give the silent treatment.
You choose not to be vulnerable for fear of someone taking advantage of you.
You pay more attention to what your partner could fix, than what you could fix.
Instead of listening to what your partner is trying to tell you, you turn on your self-defense.
You justify your actions rather than trying to understand why your partner feels the way they do about your actions.

Self-confidence

You constantly compare yourself to others.
You are uncomfortable in situations where all, or even some, of the spotlight is on you.
You feel like you are unworthy of happiness, success, love, etc.
You don’t prioritizing learning who you are, what you offer, and how you work.
When you see your peers gain success, you get jealous rather than proud.
You question your purpose.

Energy Output

You feel drained more often than you feel your best.
Even when you know you should say no, you say yes and take on more than you can actually handle.
Instead of choosing to focus on what’s going right, you focus on what’s going wrong.
You do not have a monthly, weekly, or daily routine to stick with.

Health

You don’t stay hydrated throughout the day.
You easily talk yourself out of working out, even when you know you need to.
You eat fast food for convenience, rather than prioritizing the time to fix healthier meals.
You don’t prioritize working on your mental health and working through your trauma.
Instead of finding something productive to work on, you binge eat when you are bored.

Self-care

You push yourself without ever taking a break.
You spend multiple hours on social media throughout your day.
Watching a season of your favorite show on Netflix takes precedence over journaling, meditation, etc.
You procrastinate the big tasks you need to get done rather than at least starting them.
You spend more time drinking than you do sleeping.
When you come to roadblock in your life, you swerve around it rather than try to fix it.
You don’t like learning new things because it takes too much work.

Money Habits

You impulse buy without considering if you have the funds to comfortably do so.
You choose to overlook your budget often.
You prioritize getting a morning coffee every day, even if you know you should be saving your money.
Instead of saving money for luxury items, you put it on a credit card.

Overcoming Self-Sabotaging Behavior

First of all, I’m sure you didn’t relate to every single self sabotaging example I listed.

(Although, you might have, and that’s okay!)

Maybe, you just related to a few of these examples. (Even if the exact situation is slightly different.)

Regardless, self-sabotage is real and it can absolutely ruin your happiness.

Since we know these examples of self sabotaging behavior starts in our mind, we have to work on changing our mindset.

Shifting Your Mindset

I do understand that mindset changes don’t come easy.

But, our mindset determines how we live, what we get out of life, what we strive for, and how we help others.

Meaning, it’s pretty daggum important.

The first step in changing your mindset is to practice self-awareness.

You have to seriously focus on who you are, to understand what needs to change.

Then, to seriously stop self sabotaging your happiness, pay attention to your thoughts before they become actions.

If you find yourself thinking negatively about anything in your life (work, self-confidence, money, relationships), just stop.

Immediately change your mindset into a more positive and encouraging thought! That way, your following actions will push you towards happiness and growth. (Because I’m sure you know by now, self sabotaging behavior eliminates the possibility of living a thriving life.)

On the next post, we’ll go into more detail on how to stop self sabotaging our lives:

Can I Stop Self Sabotaging my Life?

Start eliminating these self sabotaging examples from your life!

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We are so excited to have you working on your self-growth as we start tackling our self-sabotaging behavior to strive for our best selves!

As always, if you need a sign to take care of yourself: this is it.

Change your mindset.

Recognize these behaviors.

Practice self-awareness.

Because as we all know:

you are the most vital character in your story!

35 Self Sabotaging Examples