Quotes on Self Sabotage

If you are looking for some quotes on self destruction to help you work through, or grow from, self sabotage- well, you’re in the right place.

 

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Quotes on Self Sabotage

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73 Quotes on Self Destruction

 

1. “My appetite for self-destruction and misery is greatly diminished. I’m not interested in being unhappy.” – Boy George

 

2. “There’s something very romantic about self-destruction and sabotaging your life, and taking a hammer to it.” – Gerard Way

 

3. “The status quo leads to self-destruction.” – Emmanuel Macron

 

4. “We are our own devils; we drive ourselves out of our Edens.” – Wolfgang Goethe

 

5. “Sometimes we want what we want even if we know it’s going to kill us.” – Donna Tartt

 

6. “I know what it is to want something that could destroy you.” – Nenia Campbell

 

7. “Drunkenness is temporary suicide.” – Bertrand Russell

 

8. “Do not kick against the pricks; you will hurt yourself.” – Aeschylus

 

9. “Be the flame, not the moth.” – Giacomo Casanova

 

10. “Sometimes the best offense was avoiding self-destruction.” – Brandon Mull

 

11. “Give a man enough rope and he will hang himself.” – English Proverb

 

12.  “It would be a sin to help you destroy yourself.” – Leo Tolstoy

 

13. “Don’t saw off the branch you are sitting on.” – International Proverb

 

14. “In order to understand, I destroyed myself.” – Fernando Pessoa

 

15. “Sometimes, I am my own worst enemy.” – Tim McGraw

 

16. “If you think of something, do it. Plenty of people often think, ‘I’d like to do this, or that’.” – Lydia Davis

 

17. “I understood myself only after I destroyed myself. And only in the process of fixing myself, did I know who I really was.” – Sade Andria Zabala

 

18. “Having a low opinion of yourself is not ‘modesty’. It’s self-destruction. Holding your uniqueness in high regard is not ‘egotism’. It’s a necessary precondition to happiness and success.” – Bobbe Sommer

 

19. “Procrastination is, hands down, our favorite form of self-sabotage.” – Alyce Cornyn-Selby

 

20. “The quickest path to self-destruction is to push away the people you love.” – Cassia Leo

 

21. “Sometimes you hit a point where you either change or self destruct.” – Sam Stevens

 

22. “Why is it that we don’t worry about a compass until we’re lost in a wilderness of our own making?” – Craig D. Lounsbrough

 

23. “Unless we learn to know ourselves, we run the danger of destroying ourselves.” – Ja A. Jahannes

 

24. “Direct lies, small lies, huge lies, and lies of omission… these are all self-serving and sources of self-destruction.” – Cathy Burnham Martin

 

25. “How am I getting in my own way?” – Gay Hendricks

 

26. “Resistance by definition is self-sabotage.” – Steven Pressfield

 

27. “This is how women self-sabotage and self-destruct. Unless we have constant witnesses to our hard work, we are convinced we pull off every day of our lives through smoke and mirrors.” – Sarah Breathnach

 

28. “I am really fascinated by self-sabotage. I think that there’s not a person I know who doesn’t fall victim to it. It’s essential to the human condition, and relatable.” – Kit Williamson

 

29. “I craft most of my own tragedies without ever having even the remotest understanding that it is I myself who have done the crafting.” – Craig D. Lounsbrough

 

30. “Cry wolf often enough and you eventually get eaten by the wolf, even if the wolf is you.” – Kris Kidd

 

31. “I think of myself as somebody who, in a moment-by-moment way, I’m quite happy. But, I think I am a bit doubtful and wary of true happiness, and, like a lot of my friends, there’s been a good degree of self-sabotage.” – Patrick DeWitt

 

32. “The biggest thing holding you back is almost always… you. Start there.” – Hunter Post

 

33. “I felt a strange delight in causing my decay.” – Robert Browning

 

34. “Our biggest enemy is our own self-doubt. We really can achieve extraordinary things in our lives. But, we sabotage our greatness because of our fear.” – Robin Sharma

 

35. “Don’t sabotage yourself. There are plenty of other people willing to do that for free.” – Jenny Lawson

 

36. “Self-sabotage is the proverbial hammer over the head that finally wakes us up, demanding that we pay attention. For most of us, it takes something devastating to crack us open, to get us out of our minds and into our hearts.” – Debbie Ford

 

37. “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Fail Quotes

 

38. “Much of your pain is self-chosen.” – Khalil Gibran

 

39. “When your heart knows it doesn’t belong there, it will continue to self sabotage your future, until you make the choice you wanted, but found a million excuses not to pursue.” – Shannon L. Alder

 

40. “Self-conceit may lead to self destruction.” – Aesop

 

41. “Like most other creatives, I struggle with self-sabotage, self-doubt, and feeling like an imposter more often than not. I struggle with expressing myself, because it does sometimes feel easier or safer not to.” – Jeff Jarvis

 

42. “We’re fickle, stupid beings with poor memories and a great gift for self-destruction.” – Plutarch

 

43. “The price of dishonesty is self-destruction.” – Rita Mae Brown

 

45. “There’s nothing cool about being self-destructive.” – Patti Smith

 

46. “Self-destruction is the effect of cowardice in the highest extreme.” – Daniel Defoe

 

47. “Self-sabotage is the smartest thing you can do if you’re sabotaging a self that is not really you.” – Armand DiMele

 

48. “Just remember enough never to be vulnerable again: total forgetting could be as self-destructive as complete remembering.” – Helen Clark MacInnes

 

49. “My default is self-destruction, and anything on top of that is a bloody lot of work.” – Gillian Anderson

 

50. “The most destructive element in the human mind is fear. Fear creates aggressiveness; aggressiveness engenders hostility; hostility engenders fear, a disastrous circle.” – Dorothy Thompson

 

51. “Worry is just about the worst form of mental activity there is-next to hate, which is deeply self destructive. Worry is pointless. It is wasted mental energy. It also created bio-chemical reactions which harm the body, producing everything from indigestion to coronary arrest, and a multitude of things in between.” – Neale Donald Walsch

 

52. “When you don’t work together, you can’t emerge as a force. It becomes what some call a “lonely struggle” and individual self-destruction.” – Haile Gerima

 

53. “One thing so self-destructive is being unaware that you’re not okay.” – Rekeshallys

 

54. “Destruction is the work of an afternoon. Creation is the work of a lifetime.” – Kamahl

 

55. “I can be very self-destructive, but quietly.” – Sam Taylor-Wood

 

56. “If you are self-important, you are self-destructive.” – Yamini

 

57. “Destruction is easy for humans but creation is too difficult.” – Daniel J. Boorstin

 

58. “If you’re not careful, you can fall into a destructive cycle of self-pity.” – Victoria Osteen

 

59. “Thus another friendship was dashed on the cruel rocks amid the storm of my self-destruction.” – Russell Brand

 

60. “Pride is the parent of destruction; pride eats the mind and the heart and the soul alive.” – Anne Rice

 

61. “It’s been said to me that I’m self-destructive because I’ll walk away from things that are good.” – Ariel Rechtshaid

 

62. “When attempted self-destruction does not cure a man of life, it cures him of voluntary death.” – Honore de Balzac

 

63. “Without love, the acquisition of knowledge only increases confusion and leads to self-destruction.” – Jiddu Krishnamurti

 

64. “The rust of the mind is the destruction of genius.” – Seneca The Younger

 

65. “And when I get bored, it’s like the worst parts of me come out I really veer to self-destructive tendencies quickly.” – Zoe Kazan

 

66. “When the beginnings of self destruction enter the heart, it seems no bigger than a grain of sand.” – John Cheever

 

67. “Being self-critical is good; being self-hating is destructive. There’s a very find line there somewhere,  and I walk it carefully.” – Daniel Radcliffe

 

68. “Even if we are spared destruction by war, our lives will have to change if we want to save life from self-destruction.” – Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn

 

69. “Sometimes seeming happy can be self-destructive even when you’re sane.” – Brandi Carlile

 

70. “I’ve always turned my anger inwards towards self-destruction.” – Mackenzie Phillips

 

71. “Doubt, not self-reflection, comes from a destructive energy, and when it rears its head, I talk to it like a lunatic.” – Gwyneth Paltrow

 

72. “Revenge can only be found on the road to self-destruction.” – Wayne Gerard Trotman

 

73. “When you’re at peace with yourself and love yourself, it is virtually impossible to do things to yourself that are destructive.” – Wayne Dyer

 

 

And, so, there you have it!

 

73 Quotes on Self Sabotage

 

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• • • What is self-sabotage
    • Why do we self-sabotage
    • Self-sabotaging signs to look for
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Insider’s Edition: Long Distance Relationships

(the good, the bad, and the ugly)

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What We’ve Learned Throughout our

Long Distance Relationship

If you’ve followed this blog, Becoming the Best Self, or my Instagram, you probably know by now that I’m in a LDR (long distance relationship). He’s definitely not attention shy, but for this series, I’ll just refer to my better half as Mr. J!

I mean, it really is fitting, because minus the toxicity, I’m basically Harley Quinn and he thinks he’s a cool and slick as Mr. J anyways.

[Obviously, post the iconically heartbreaking break-up, even though Harley, herself, is now doing wonderful!]

*Shrugs shoulders with slight eye-roll.* (Jk, babe! I love you! And you’re the dopest person I know!)

Okay, so slight update for you: We have officially spent over a year in a long distance relationship! And believe me, I never thought I would be saying that!

I’ve been bothering Mr. J for OVER 365 days, and yet here we are- THRIVING!

(Maybe it’s just because I’m cute, or maybe he really does adore me! The world may never know.)

I digress- starting a long distance relationship was never appealing to me (as it normally isn’t for the majority of us humans).

I don’t think people, at least I know I didn’t, wake up and go, “Hmm. What a beautiful day to fall in love with someone- that isn’t going to be anywhere near me on a regular basis!”

I’m not talking about wanting your space when you get mad- I’m talking about not getting to have your best friend by your side on holidays, birthdays, or celebrations. I’m talking having hard talks, that you know need to be had, over a phone call because it’s the only way it will get sorted. I’m talking bawling your eyes about something and just wanting that comfort of your person, but settling for a sweet text because it’s all y’all have.

Now, if all that is what you long for, you prolly a lil toxic but, LONG DISTANCE IS FOR YOU, SIS!

But the reality is that most of the time, we don’t have much of a choice when a relationship is long distance. It’s okay though! You’ve came to the right place! Today, we’re going to get into the nitty gritty behind making a long distance relationship not only work, but thrive! So, if you are beginning, considering, or trying to enhance your LDR, stay with me!

I’m hoping, if nothing else, you’ll at least have reassurance that you can absolutely have an amazing long distance relationship by the end of this post!

A Quick Little LDR Backstory on Me and Mr. J

First of all, we’ll mention the elephant in the room: He’s hotter than I am. He’s *whewww* hot. (Insert the drooling and fire emojis.) He’s.. dreamy.

But, I’m ‘DM him on Insta and see if I don’t pull up’ crazy, so there’s that.

And no, he’s not just looks. But, I mean- come on. When you look like that??? Is it ever really NOT just looks?!

Okay, TOTALLY kidding, but I am obsessed with this man! I could write a whole post on all the ways he’s incredible, but I know that’s not why you’re here. (*breaks out in sweats as I’ve lost my train of thought.*)

I’m going to keep this pretty short, as I know many of you already know about our relationship and I also have a separate post on our relationship during this pandemic, but I want to give a little more detail on how we actually work and what we prioritize while being long distance!

(You can also listen to a podcast on long distance we did here!)

As I mentioned earlier, we have now officially been ‘together’ for a little over year! I’m not sure if it’s a pro or con (we actually discuss this frequently), but we have been long distance for the entirety of our relationship, thus far. Seriously- the night of our first date, he told me he was leaving the next day, but that he thought I was pretty cool, and would be willing to try a LDR if I was…

You’ll never believe it, but I said, “alright, alright, alright- let’s do this,” and we pretty much started our relationship about 8 hours apart.

In some ways, I’m thankful for this. I didn’t have to adjust from being with someone everyday, to being states apart.

But, I do sometimes wish we had that time in the beginning together. I wish we were able to learn the ins and outs of each other in the same place, rather than over texts, face time, and monthly adventures.

We’ve been hours apart, on opposite sides of the country, and even entire countries apart. And even though it’s been a learning curve for the both of us, it’s one I will always be grateful for!

Over the course of a year, we have learned many things to treasure in our relationship, more things we have to work hard at, and even more things we need to adjust to.

On that note, it is my pleasure to I present to you this series on Long Distance Dating, where we are now diving right into questions we get asked that pertain to being a long distance couple!

Common Questions for Long Distance Couples (Answered)

If you are beginning, or considering starting, a long distance relationship, I know you may have a lot of questions. (Or, maybe you don’t. I didn’t in the beginning, but looking back- there are some things I wish I had known.)

Now, even though I’ve had friends come to me for, and value, my advice, I never thought I would have couples asking me about my long distance relationship- but here we are.

I want to disclaim here that we are not always #relationshipgoals. We aren’t perfect, and we never claim to be. And, even though this series is about teaching you how to make your LDR thrive- we aren’t always thriving. We don’t always have it together. But, after a year of doing this, I do think we have a leg (or 4) to stand on. 

I’m going to go through just a few of the question I have been asked, multiple times, by different people! My answers won’t be exact solutions, but they will be honest, and they will be what has worked for our relationship.

• Isn’t it hard?

Ah, the infamous, “Oh, wow… that must be very hard on y’all,” comment.

Of course it is. Abso-freaking-lutely of course it is.

It’s probably the hardest thing I’ve ever actually committed to. There’s no just coming home, cuddling up, and getting that sweet ‘I love you’ kiss before bed.

“Jess, that’s unrealistic, first of all. This isn’t a regular thing to expect, all the time.”

Okay, technically you’re right. Life gets loaded and we get busy. But, shouldn’t we have high expectations for our relationships? Shouldn’t we want that fairytale love? Maybe not, but I do.

Hear me out though- a LDR can still have that fairytale vibe, I just think you have to go about it a little differently.

 Learn yourself and what you need. Seriously. It sounds selfish, but these are things you need to know before going into any relationship. You also need to communicate with your partner about what their needs are. Since relationships are a two way street, both people need to have their needs met to thrive.

I know this sounds simple, because you really need to know these things regardless of what kind of relationship you are in, but long distance just adds another difficulty level to opening up. I got you though- here are some examples of ways you can meet your partner’s needs, even long distance:

• • I’m going to start with this because it’s a huge one for me: If you are a person that needs reassurance, express this in the beginning. Let your partner know that you will need to be reassured of your relationship, love, etc. at the start of your relationship.

Listen. Reassurance is not necessarily a negative term. Now, if you need reassurance due to toxic traits of you or your partner, that have been shown throughout your relationship, that probably isn’t good and you have bigger fish to fry than just distance.

But, as this entire question is about, and assuming you have a healthy relationship, long distance is hard. Your relationship will be supported by a solid foundation of trust and honesty, that’s made from phone calls and FaceTimes. Needing reassurance will be normal.

With that being said, if you don’t let these expectations be known from the start, randomly asking your significant other if there is something wrong, or if they love you anymore, can lead to them feeling like they aren’t doing enough. They’ll assume they’ve done something wrong to make you feel like something is failing, when in reality, you just need to hear that everything is good!

Believe me when I say, healthy communication is V I T A L.

• • You can still go on regular dates, it’s just over video. Plan nights and times and stick to them. Quality time is something you should never take for granted, and not many relationships will work without it. It’s how you get to know who you’re with! It’s how you fall in love over and over again! Find time, even when y’all are time zones apart, and really date to learn if this is really who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Don’t just get comfortable.

Quick pro tip for the guys– pay attention to your girl. We aren’t as hard as we’re made out to be. If you love her like you should, learn her. Y’all out here throwing around your money, when she just wants you to get some food and watch a movie with her. Crazy.

Quick pro tip for the girls– don’t make them guess. Verbalize what you want. Don’t expect your man to read your mind. That’s not how humans work, and just sets your relationship’s termination.

• • I’m going to go in on this in my next post of this series, but have an end goal for the long distance.

First of all, if you don’t picture a future with this person, don’t waste their, or your, time. I mean, come on- grow a pair of balls, and let them down easy, but it’s only going to get harder the longer you string them on.

Secondly, a long distance relationship should be temporary. If you do see your relationship lasting the test of time, set your end goal. Then, communicate about it! Understand why you are currently long distance, and figure out the steps y’all have to take to be together.

This doesn’t mean date for a month and then plan to move to a different country for them the next day. (I’m not knocking it though- you do you, boo!) Whether it be a year or 5, have your end goal set and work towards it!

Keep in mind- all healthy relationships take work. Long distance just gives you a gap you have to find ways to fill.

The relationship (& love) itself does not necessarily take any different amount of work, but you will have to find ways to overcome the distance.

 

• How far is too far?

Even though I get this question enough to mention it here, the answer is simple. For us, every mile apart sucks, but it’ll never be too far.

I think this is a pretty personal decision, but we obviously haven’t had a ‘too far’. I have literally been asked if there was some magic number, in terms of distance, where I would be like, “Oop. Too far, I’m out.”

But, after being in completely different countries, I think it’s a safe bet to say I’m in it to win it. (Congrats, Mr. J. You’re stuck with me!)

Now, we know Becoming the Best Self is all about.. well, becoming your best self. And, in the name of the game- you have to know yourself to become your best self. 

When committing to a relationship, long distance in particular, you have to know yourself. Yes, you will have bad days and feel (probably be) less than sometimes, but you need to have a good foundation on knowing who you are, where you are in life, and where you are trying to be.

I think anyone can make a long distance relationship work, but not everyone is at a place in their life where they can make it thrive.

You have to determine how far is too far. Self reflect, and have that vulnerable conversation with yourself.

For some, a different town may be too much. You may need that in person support, and long distance can’t give you that. For others, you can be worlds apart and you’ll figure it out. (I mean, that’s what we’re doing- just figuring it out!)

Neither way is ‘right’, but you need to know what you want and what your lines are, or you’re setting everyone up for failure. If you go into something doubting it’s ability to work… well, you’re affirming that it won’t.

 

• How do y’all do it?

This is probably my favorite question because the answer really is pretty simple: we just do it. 

I’m going to go into an elaborate amount of detail in the next post of this series, where we’ll give you some actual tips and ways to make your long distance relationship thrive, but I will touch on it just a bit here, as a means of wrapping up this post.

As of right now, and the past year, we haven’t had any say in being long distance. We have only had a say in if we wanted to have a relationship, and clearly we do.

I stumbled upon a book by Couple Power that focuses on “The Four C’s” in making a LDR work, and I wanted to quickly share a bit of my take on those here:

• Commitment

  • If you aren’t committed, why are you in it? I’m so freaking serious. If you can’t commit, don’t date. It’s simple.

Long distance relationships require an entirely different level of trust, vulnerability, and honesty. Even though these are qualities that every relationship needs, when you have a significant amount of miles between you, they are harder to get and maintain. Like I said earlier, long distance relationships are hard. Remember your commitment, even when your significant other isn’t beside you.

I know this sounds just like a ‘don’t cheat’ reminder (which it is), but it’s so much more than that. Commit to every aspect of your relationship. Be in your relationship.

• • • • Small example: LDR relationships, mine at least, require more time set aside. You can’t just grab dinner together and watch a movie beside each other while working on others things. You have to commit to times that you’ll spend with your significant other, whether it be via phone call, FaceTime, etc. Commit to that time. 
• Cooperation
• • Work together as a team. Have a situation? Cooperate with one another. It’s y’all against the problem, not y’all against each other. (I say that lightly, but it’s not always an easy feat. I know Mr. J probably wishes I reminded myself of this more often than I do, but we’re all a work in progress, yeah?)

Face things together. In all aspects of life. Be a team.

• • • Pick your battles. If it’s not worth it, just drop it. It’ll save you a lot of valuable time- I promise.

• Communication

  • I can’t stress this one enough. If you don’t know how to communicate, you seriously better learn. You have to both be willing to communicate, about everything. Do you know how many things can get misinterpreted when all you can do is text and have phone calls? Don’t be afraid to talk. Honestly, don’t be afraid to ‘start things’.

(Mr. J is probably rolling his eyes because he knows I take my own advice on this. *insert upside down face emoji here.* But, unlike how I go about a lot of things, I am encouraging you to do it in a healthier manner.)

• • If you are scared to bring something up because you think it’s going to start something, you probably really do need to talk about it. So, communicate. Y’all will have to figure out how y’all best communicate, but I am telling you- communication makes the world of difference in a long distance relationship.
    • For instance, Mr. J likes to talk on FaceTime, so we can see each other and not just hear a voice or interpret a text. He is a ‘problem solver’ and I’m a ‘problem analyzer’. I want the why, how, what are the options, and what now. He just wants to fix it. But, our yin and yang fit, and we continuously try to master how we communicate- even if it’s not easy.
• Community
  • Keeping this short and sweet: you are going to need people around you that are going to support you. You want a community that is going to encourage your relationship (given that it’s healthy).

 

Final LDR Roundup-

As cliche as it sounds, you really either want to make it work, or you don’t. You know the saying, “work for what you want”?

That’s what your slogan should be going into, and maintaining, your long distance relationship!

All in all, we just work. When something’s wrong, we fix it. We’re not perfect at it, but I’ll be damned if my relationship fails because we didn’t give it our all.

 

That’s all I got for this one, love birds!

If you found this helpful or have more questions, please let me know in the comments! And, as always, if you think someone could benefit from reading this, make sure to share it! 

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In the next part of this series, we’ll talk about some legit ways you can improve your mental health in a long distance relationship, so be sure to check back in and stay tuned!

As always, if you need a sign to take care of yourself: this is it.

Take a step back and figure out what you want.

Start that relationship.

Practice communication.

Because as we all know:

you are the most vital character in your story!

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Peace out, girl scouts!

… and always aim to be the best self you can be.

If you are looking for a sign to get out of bed, take a shower, walk outside, or a simple reminder that you are important: Here it is! This is your sign!

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Entering into a New World: 3 Things to Remember

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Well, the time is come. Georgia is opening back up today and I’m pretty sure we’re going to be facing a new world. After almost two months of a near world-wide shutdown, I can’t say I am upset about the idea of going back to normal. But, what is normal anymore?

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Okay, we all know I’m young. A baby adult, as some would say. Finishing school. Working full time. Adding on a blog. I try to do a lot with my time, but I have a lot of life to get ready for.

With that, I can say that I am pretty used to the fast paced life Americans have been born and bred to love! I come from a family of busy bees. Always striving to get the next thing done and probably holding an overflowing plate, most of the time.

But, a few weeks ago, the world stopped. Kinda. We started shutting down. The government began telling us, more so than average, what we could, or couldn’t, do. They have restricted where we can, or can’t go. And don’t get me wrong- I think there were measures that needed (and still need) to be taken, but watching life as you know it stop… it’s pretty scary.

Seriously.

Driving with only two or three cars on the road, when you’re used to flying with fifty. Or seeing everyone in masks when you walk into a grocery store, where there’s hardly any necessities to buy anyways. Life has gotten weird. 

So, what are we walking into when we open back up?

I mean, honestly? Who knows.

Two months ago, you could buy N95 masks from nearly any seller, and now finding one is like stumbling on gold. Toilet paper was the last thing grocery stores ran out of, and now it’s the very first. Name brand hand sanitizer was overstocked on every shelf in every store, and now we have local distilleries trying to mass produce this product, just to help out small business owners in their area.

That’s C R A Z Y.

To me, at least.

But, here’s the thing: we are all doing this together.

 

With that, I present to you 3 things we need to remember as we enter into a new world:

#1. We are one.

Although we might not have each self-isolated, obeyed the guidelines set in place, or hoarded all the bagel bites, we are all witnessing a new world being formed right before our eyes. Together. As one. And I really do think this is important to remember. No matter how different this has played out in each of our lives, we have gone through a world-wide pandemic together. Now, I don’t think, “Oh, God must have let all this happen for us to come together and make a better world.” But, I do think we need to love harder after this. I think it’s safe to assume we have all had our difficulties, and most will continue to, throughout this. Support your neighbor. However you can. Contribute to society in your best way, because it needs you. We need you. We are one.

#2. This is a first, for everyone.

Do you know anybody who has gone through this before? I don’t. My parents don’t. Their parents don’t. This is a first, for everyone. And, for that, I’m glad. I’m glad this isn’t a ‘thing’ our world goes through every year. (Or even every 50 for that matter.) I’m glad this is the first time every generation of my family has seen this. I pray to God it never happens again, but I am thankful this is a first for everyone I know. Of course, being a first time problem for nearly everyone poses it’s own problems (as in, how to handle absolutely anything going on). But, aren’t you glad this isn’t something you just.. know how to deal with? Aren’t you kinda glad we aren’t experts at living like this? #gratitude

#3. It’s going to be a new world.

I’ve said it so much, but it needs to sink in with all of us. Everything is going to be different. Maybe not forever, but for awhile and especially in the beginning. I mean, before this, people apparently didn’t even wash their hands. (Haha- because there was so much stuff on clean hands in the beginning? Get it? You’re welcome for the giggle.) On a slightly more serious note: it’s really going to be different because we don’t know what we’re doing. None of us do. We don’t know if this is 100% right or 100% wrong. (For all I know, we’ll be on a strict lock down in the next 36 hours.) New information is coming out, changing rules and recommendations every single day. We are all just forming opinions on how we feel, but we do not know the correct answer. If we all did, I wouldn’t be typing up this blog because the problem would have been solved by now.

I digress.

It’s going to be a new world. But, the show must go on.

Eventually.

Whether it be today, in 3 weeks, or in 3 months.

The show must go on, and regardless of when, we will be entering into a new world.

 

**zombies appear as screen fades out.**

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If you stuck around this far, I appreciate you. share this post by using the social media icons to help others come out of this quarantine with more love!

As always, if you need a sign to take care of yourself: this is it.

Sing a song.

Sit outside.

Breathe.

Because as we all know:

you are the most vital character in your story!

Peace out, girl scouts!

… and always aim to be the best self you can be.

P.S. I found a good post on staying balanced during quarantine for y’all! It’s on Jamming Life’s blog and you can find it by clicking here!