How to Stop Self-Sabotaging your Life

If you are trying to really figure out how to stop self sabotaging your life, you’re in the right spot.

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If you are looking for a sign to get out of bed, take a shower, walk outside, or a simple reminder that you are important: Here it is! This is your sign!

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How to Stop Self-Sabotaging

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Hey, guys! I seriously recommend reading this post AND listening to our podcast corresponding to it! We bring a little bit of a different approach to each!

 

If you didn’t know, Becoming the Best Self is continuing our series on self sabotage. We have discussed what it is, why we do it, and how to recognize it. Today, we’re going to finally talk about how to stop self sabotaging!

If you think you may be self-sabotaging your life, work, goals, or relationship(s), I promise you- you’re in the right place.

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How to Stop Self-Sabotaging in 3 quick steps

 

Okay, I may be exaggerating with the “quick” part. But, let’s be real- no real growth comes quickly!

 

Although it may take some work, I’m going to give you 3 (pretty easy) steps that will teach you how to stop self-sabotaging your happiness, growth, and success. Let’s get started.

 

Step 1. Recognize your self-sabotaging behavior(s).

 

If you’ve kept up with our blog or podcast for any amount of time, I know you have this concept drilled into your head. But, I’ll say it again: we have to recognize who we are and what we’re doing to be able to change our life.

 

How can you expect to grow, succeed, and flourish if you aren’t willing to step back and see what’s currently stopping you from living your dreams?

 

So, if you think you hindering your own abilities, you have to first recognize what you’re doing wrong. That’s when you’ll be able to begin to stop self-sabotaging.

 

Since we have an entire post in relation to how exactly you can recognize self-sabotaging behavior, I’m not going to elaborate on it now. 

 

But, we are going to look at a couple ways to go about recognizing these signs:

 

 

• Journal

If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it 1,000 times: start a freaking journal.

Listen, I emphasize this so much because it’s so valuable! Journal about anything and everything.

If absolutely nothing else comes from it, you’ll be amazed at the amount of growth you can look back on.

Grab a journal like this and just start writing!

 

• Talk about it

Sometimes it’s hard to actually see what exactly you’re doing wrong.

This is why it’s so important to have a small (or big, if you’re blessed) network of good and honest people by your side. And, I’m not just talking about your casual “bestfriends”.

I’m referring to the best of the best people in your life. The one(s) that you can call on whenever and they can calm you down, help you, and motivate you. You know, the real ones.

Now, I only have a few of these people in my life. But, I know they’re going to tell me how it is. They aren’t afraid of telling me when or if I’m doing/being wrong. 

If I’m being crazy, they tell me. If I’m standing in my own way, they tell me. Likewise, if I need to walk away from something, they tell me. If I can’t see sabotage or harm in my life, but they do- they tell me.

 

“Jess, I don’t have a single friend like that.”

 

First of all, email me. Seriously, talk to me. If you need a supportive friend, email me, message me on Facebook, or DM me on Instagram. (But, keep in mind, I am going to be real with you. I am not going to listen to self-sabotaging excuses.)

Secondly, check yourself. 

If you ‘think’ you have a lot of friends, but don’t have anyone like I just described, then you are surrounding yourself with people who are dragging you down with them.

If they aren’t motivating you, they’re holding you back.

So, walk away from who you need to. Here’s your sign to leave the bad energy behind and burn bridges. 

Start networking with like-minded individuals. Work with people who want to grow and succeed. Support people who are where you want to be. Build connections with those who you can grow with.

 

Step 2. Change your mindset and habits.

 

We started discussing mindset changed in our very first post in this series. And look a’here. It’s one of the top three steps on how to stop self-sabotaging.

 

Everything that we do, say, shame, support all stem from one thing: our thoughts. But, our thoughts stem from our mindset.

 

So, if you are self-sabotaging your life by your actions that are coming from your thoughts, change your mindset.

 

The hardest part of working through a mindset shift is that you have to do it alone. And, here’s the reason why- no one is in your head with you. No one else has the ability to track your thoughts. 

 

But, it is  V I T A L  that you begin shifting how you think and what you think about:

 

• Stop doubting your abilities.
• Start thinking highly and positively about yourself.
• Stop worrying about what others are going to think.
• Start working on what makes you happy.
• Stop living your life for other people.
• Start making life what you want it to be!

 

Step 3. Stop (and start).

 

Stop self-sabotaging and start working for your success. At the end of the day, you just have to stop. If you honestly want to know how to stop self-sabotaging your life, the answer itself really is that simple.

 

Just stop.

 

Once you recognize your self-sabotaging behavior(s) and shift your mindset to set yourself up for success, then just stop anything and everything that isn’t benefitting you.

 

Then, start working.

 

At the same time you are stopping self-sabotage, you need to begin working towards success and strive for growth.

 

I can’t tell you what’s stopping you. But, you have to figure it out and fix it. And, once you do, work to make sure you never let it get in your way again.

 

Success doesn’t come easy. Growth isn’t quick. Happiness won’t be effortless.

 

If you know what’s stopping you, why continue doing it?

If you know what needs to be done, why not do it?

 

If you found this post beneficial, or think it could be beneficial to your friends or family, make sure you share it to your social media or through texts and emails! 

 

I always love hearing from you, so don’t be afraid to drop a comment below, email me, or reach out to me on Instagram! 

 

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We are so excited to have you working on your self-growth as we start tackling our self-sabotaging behavior to strive for our best selves!

As always, if you need a sign to take care of yourself: this is it.

See the self-sabotaging behaviors.

Change your mindset.

Just stop sabotaging and start growing.

Because as we all know:

you are the most vital character in your story!

*This post contains affiliate links. I do receive a small commission if you purchase a product using my link, with no addition cost to you! I promise that Becoming the Best Self will never promote anything that has not been used, fully looked into, or that we do not fully support!*

 

Related articles:

What is self-sabotage

Why do we self-sabotage

Self-sabotaging signs to look for

Examples of self-sabotaging behavior

 

 

Peace out, girl scouts!

… and always aim to be the best self you can be.